The figures are alarming: in America, 45% of marriages end in divorce. How to explain such a percentage? Here are the 10 common causes that push a married couple to tear themselves apart:
1. Lack of communication
Many couples live together but do not communicate or share anything. The danger is that instead of growing together, the people go their separate ways and end up separating. It is important not to hesitate to have a heart-to-heart talk with your partner in order to maintain the link.
2. Differences of opinion in terms of finances
Although when you get married you promise to love each other for richer or poorer, differences of opinion and/or behavior regarding money can lead to divorce. Indeed, if one is thrifty and the other is a spendthrift, it can cause sparks to fly: make sure you agree before you say “I do”.
3. Not marrying for love
Whether it’s a hasty marriage for some reason, an arranged marriage or something else, the lack of love is often what will lead a union to its downfall. Indeed, when times are hard, it is the love that unites the couple that allows them to move forward and stay together.
4. Constant remarks
Of course, you can’t like everything about the other person and criticism can help improve the relationship and make you aware of certain things. However, if the criticism becomes constant, the person may feel belittled and drift away, which will eventually destroy the marriage. That’s why it’s important to focus on the positive, to flatter your partner and to accept the fact that nobody is perfect.
5. Lack of intimacy
Sex is just as important as anything else in maintaining a marriage. If the couple has problems or a lack of sex, it can lead to the end of the relationship. Feeling wanted by your partner is what keeps couples together.
6. Infidelity
Infidelity is the number one cause of divorce. There’s nothing wrong with letting your eyes wander here and there, but getting past it can have disastrous consequences. Take a step back, is an extramarital relationship worth jeopardizing years of love and togetherness?
7. The midlife crisis
The midlife crisis affects mostly men between 40 and 50 years old. They have reached their professional goals, their children have left home and they find themselves with only their partner. Routine then takes over and it’s a crisis. People want to feel young again and do foolish things, which can lead to the loss of the marriage.
8. Jealousy caused by social networks
Recent studies have shown that social networking can have serious consequences on relationships under 3 years. Partners spend their time spying on each other on social networks and many problems can arise which can lead to separation.
9. Emotional and physical abuse
Respect is essential in relationships. If your partner does not respect you and even abuses you emotionally or physically, then you should seek help immediately and distance yourself.
10. Mental problems
Addictions to gambling, alcohol, depression or other mental illnesses can endanger the relationship. It is therefore important that psychological problems be addressed and treated for the sake of the individual affected, but also for the sake of the relationship. Loved ones should encourage fragile people to seek treatment, they should be an additional support for them.
Although the things listed above can lead to marriages falling apart, they do not have to. Pay attention to some of the signs and work to remedy the problems before it’s too late. Divorce is hard on both partners and children, so it’s important to do everything you can to make the marriage work for many years to come.
