Psychotherapy can influence the way you think and put an end to certain problems. Therapists help get to the bottom of buried feelings, thoughts and traumas. They find out what really motivates a person and what they are suffering from. And finally, they find solutions that help the person feel better and move forward in life.
On Twitter, users quote phrases from their therapists that have particularly stuck with them. Some of these tips have the power to change an entire life, because sometimes all it takes is a little nudge to see the world in a new light.
1. Know your own worth.
“It’s important to know your own character, the good and the bad, to be able to notice when people are projecting their own insecurities onto you. People notice things about you that they don’t like about themselves, or are jealous of what makes you special, and so will do anything to pull you down.”
There will always be people who will try to pull you down to feel big. Once you know your own worth, you can face them with confidence.
2. Put yourself first.
“Tell people who constantly expect you to accommodate their plans and needs, ‘Here’s my plan. You’re free to participate in it if you want to.’ And then do what you want, whether they like it or not.”
It’s not being selfish to put yourself first and not adapt your needs to those of others. Always think about your plan and pursue your own path. You don’t have to please anyone but yourself.
3. You have value.
“Your value is not based on what you do or accomplish.”
Many people focus too much on how to please others or what they can accomplish in their lives. Yet it’s important to know that every person has value and should be appreciated and loved as a human being.
4. Tell your friends what you want them to do.
“It’s perfectly normal to tell your friends what you want from a friendship.”
Anyone who is afraid to express their desires will always suffer from not getting what they need from the people they love.
5. Be kind to yourself.
“Me: says mean and demeaning things about myself. My therapist: ‘What would you say to a friend if they talked about themselves that way?'”
Instead of constantly judging yourself, give yourself love and motivation. It will help you move forward in life. You should never treat yourself worse than you treat your loved ones.
6. Banish your fears.
“My therapist advised me to interrupt thoughts of fear with optimistic thoughts. In these situations, you have to ask yourself, “What if this thing works?” or “What if my hard work pays off?”
People who often suffer from anxious or negative thoughts should try this tip. With this, you’re less driven by your fear and can look at the future in a more positive way.
7. Think of relationships as a silent movie.
“Think of relationships as a silent movie. If there are no words to solve problems, watch the actions. Do they match the words?”
The things we do are more important than the things we say. If you observe your relationship carefully, you’ll find that words aren’t always necessary.
8. Lower your expectations of others.
“Don’t lower your standards, just lower your expectations of people.”
Life doesn’t always turn out the way you planned. Those who expect nothing but perfection from themselves often have high expectations of others. Get in the habit of not expecting too much from life and others to avoid frustration and suffering.
9. Don’t compare yourself to others.
“Work with your character, don’t fight against it. Only you can decide what you want or need. Don’t compare yourself to others.”
Each person is unique. No one should tell you how to live. Go at your own pace and don’t complicate your life unnecessarily.
10. Create your own happiness.
Create your own happiness. Be your own light. It’s nice to have someone who ADDS joy to your life, but don’t be dependent on them.”
No one else is responsible for your happiness. Once you get that down, a breakup is easier to deal with because you were happy before.